'They need to leave': Pregnant wife returns from hospital to find her brother-in-law's entire family living in their home

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Feb 18, 2023 4:00 PM EST

This must be the plot of either a screwball comedy or a total horror nightmare! This thread was posted to Reddit's r/AmITheA**hole subreddit by u/Even-String-3530, who shared that after an unfortunate stay at the hospital, while four months pregnant, she returned home to find her house in shambles.

Ok not literally, but pretty close. Her husband invited his brother's entire family to live with them after they were evicted for some mysterious reason (red flag #1 right there!). It took very little time for them to completely turn their home upside down, with dirty dishes and clothes strewn about everywhere. After a few days, the Redditor couldn't take it anymore and called her Mom to help. Let's just say that Mother knew best and swooped in to save the day. Even the Redditor's mother-in-law, who was initially unhappy with the way her sons were treated, sided with the Redditor once she saw the state of the home.

Keep scrolling below for the full story. For more, check out this post about a woman who married her bully's sister.

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  • 01
    Font - 2 nicple OLID NUOVO A "The house was a complete wreck."
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    AITA for calling my mom when my husband refused to listen to me? Not the I (26f) recently moved into my first home. I am also 4 months pregnant with our first baby. The pregnancy has been very hard. I have horrible morning sickness. It reached a really bad point where I passed out hit my head and my Dr admitted me to the hospital for a week.
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    Font - When I got home my husband allowed his brothers family to move into 2 of our 3 bedrooms. (They were evicted i dont know why). One room was My office was tossed into our room papers every where. The house was a complete wreck. Trash, dirty clothes, used diapers. I started to cry. It was like a light flipped my husband was no longer the same. My husband told me it "wasn't that bad". My reply was "fine then you should have the house cleaned up before I wake up." Completly exhausted I fell as
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    Font - The following morning. I was trying my best to work when their kids were crying non stop. Banging on the walls so on. Their mom was in her room for hours ignoring them. When my husband came home. He was upset with me over how I didn't make his brother's wife feel welcome in our home. By helping with their kids when she was tired. Then continued to complain how nothing was done while he was at work all day in the house. Yep the same one he didn't clean.
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    Font - That lead to a fight where I told him. "I am too sick to have company and they need to leave". To which he replied they are his family and he won't kick them out. I started to cry again. I was beyond frustrated, exhausted, I physically couldnt do it anymore. I called my mom asking if I could come stay with her. Telling her the whole story infront of my husband. Who at this point was completely shocked, Angry, also I could tell he wasnt sure what to do.
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    Font - My mom came with my brother's (I have 3 older brothers). My mom super angry told my husband. "Since your family can stay so can we." My mom quickly took charge. I was sent to bed. My brother's started cleaning complaining loudly at how disgusting my BIL family is. Along with what a horrible husband my husband is for putting me through this while I am sick.
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    Font - I got a text message from my MIL for calling me an A for not helping my husband clean up the house and putting my BIL in a uncomfortable position by having my mom boss him around. Edited to add update, when my MIL showed up she was super angry outside. I could hear shouting but, couldn't understand what was said. Once inside she was shocked. My house looked really bad. My BIL lied to her about what happened. My MIL quickly started to help my mom in the bossing mode. My house is not just c
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    Font - My BIL and his kids are now staying with MIL. She didn't know about the eviction. My in-laws helped them financially a couple of months ago. My MIL was not happy about it. SIL refused to come out of the bedroom. She would scream through the door but that was about it until her family came to pick her up. Last little bit. I did talk to my husband. He seemed very remorseful. I asked for some space he is staying at a hotel. He asked to come by and talk to me tonight.
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    Font - My mom and dad are here. Both mom's felt like I should have someone here since I am sick. Both moms have set up a meal plan. Where they trade off who will bring in dinner. It was my MIL idea. Thank you for all your advice. I truly appreciate it.
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    Font - TerrifiedSquid 19 hr. ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [33] Wait.. your MIL called.. to fuss at you for INVOLVING YOUR MOTHER?!?! There's this pot kettle thing.. NTA 1000%.. but house guests in a shared home require TWO yesses and only one no. Both of you agree or it shouldn't happen. Your husband has treated you abominably. I'm not sure I could deal with that honestly. Can you go stay w your mom? 39.6k Reply Share
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    Font - Even-String-3530 OP. 19 hr. ago I agree with the 2 yes's I wasn't even asked to say no. 4 14.0k Reply Share
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    Font - mdthomas 19 hr. ago Prime Ministurd [431] I mean this in the nicest way possible: please start prepping for divorce. Your husband moved in people to the home without consulting with you first. He is prioritizing their needs over the needs of his wife and unborn child. ΝΤΑ 14.3k Reply Share
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    Font - NomNom83WasTaken . 19 hr. ago Craptain [187] Even worse, he's prioritizing "his family" which... apparently doesn't include OP or the baby. 6.0k Reply
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    TinyBlonde15. 19 hr. ago Your mom is mom of the year. So are your brothers. Lovely problem solving. Husband won't take care of your needs NEEDS btw not wants. Rest is a need. Clean dishes to eat off is a need. 12.2k Reply Share
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    weist-risq 18 hr. ago Literally this made my heart too happy. More often than I'd think is norma OPs own family takes the side I'm glad to see how well hers came through. NTA 1.9k Reply Share
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    Font - shadow-foxe 19 hr. ago Commander in Cheeks [22... NTA- so while you are in hospital, your husband without even asking you moves in his brothers family. WOW. His family, he cleans. I'd be making him attend some therapy sessions because he needs a huge wake up call. 5.8k Reply Share
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    Font - Even-String-3530 OP. 18 hr. ago Yes he did. I can hear my husband saying "I'm sorry" over and over again to my mom. 3.9k Reply Share
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    Font - CrystalQueen3000. 19 hr. ago Judge, Jury, and Excretion... I officially love your mother ΝΤΑ 4.0k Reply Share
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    Font - TalkingCapibara 18 hr. ago Please update us, I want to know more! How did your husbands family react to the aggressive cleaning? Were they at least embarrased? Did they stay or magically find another place to live? I'm so invested! 2.8k Reply Share
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    Font - Even-String-3530 OP. 18 hr. ago Sister in-law just went Into the bedroom and closed the door. My MIL just showed up so I am waiting until my mom sees her. 3.8k Reply Share
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    Font - redheadjd 19 hr. ago . I want your mom to adopt me. I'll be a cool stepsis, I SWEAR! Your mom sounds like an awesome problem solver.
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    NTA. Your husband tho - wow. Talk about kicking someone when they're down. D - she's sick, she's pregnant with my baby, she just got out of the hospital - this seems like a good time to have boorish houseguests for her to cook for and clean up after. Seriously, ? This was his time to show you that he's got your back, he's your support system. What does he do? Exactly the opposite of that. He increases your workload and decreases your comfort.
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    Font - That guy, if he doesn't do a major apology and change of behavior - you'll be a lot better off without him. Do you really want to sign on for a whole family of babies to feed and clean up after? I think just the one baby will be plenty. 1.5k Reply Share
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